Showing posts with label Tim. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Tim. Show all posts

Saturday, July 12, 2014

Days 8 & 9 July 11-12th

Well it's been an eventful two days that's for sure. Tim was laid off. Our one income was cut down to zero incomes. This is one of the only times I have ever been thankful for the twins having cerebral palsy. Thankfully the boys get social security disability so everyone will be fed, sheltered, and clothed. For our new readers our youngest two Gavin and Gabe were born at 30w2d gestation after complications resulting from twin to twin transfusion syndrome. When the boys were born they both had traumatic brain injuries due to lack of oxygen secondary to a full placental abruption and massive internal bleeding. 

So our fun frugal urban homestead just took a crash coarse. We now have to cut bills enough to survive until Tim finds a new job, which is hopefully very, very, soon. We are thankful for friends and family's support, advice, and encouragement. It's always stressful for a family when they lose income but it's especially hard for a family with not one, but two special needs children and two other small children in the home. 

Enough about the doom and gloom. 

Speaking of Twin to twin transfusion syndrome, or TTTS, Cincinnati children's hospitals maternal fetal care unit contacted me Friday to ask if we could be a part of an on going medical study. No one really knows the long term effects of twin to twin transfusion syndrome because before the surgery was pioneered the survival rate of children with ttts in utero was only 10-15%. This means without their efforts and trials and error with the complication our boys wouldn't have survived to be here with us. When we were diagnosed Gavin was already in the first stage of heart failure and Gabe was on the verge of kidney and liver failure while in utero. 



Needless to say we said we'd LOVE to be a part of the study. They will be in contact with us on whether they can get us out there all expense paid or if the team of doctors will meet us at a hospital in Springfield. How exciting! I am very proud that my boys and I have survived and made it this far, special needs or not,  and it would mean the world to Tim and I to be able to make the decision to terminate or have surgery that much easier for parents that were in our situation. We took a shot in the dark with the boys and I'm happy everyday that we did.


Garden 

Planning, planning, planning 

We are ready to rock and roll for our fall garden. Now we just need our summer garden to produce it's harvest and then we can turn it over and direct sow and transplant the rest. I am getting antsy though because were just 90 days from our first hard frost. We are slowly running out of time. Thankfully I've been reading up on how to overwinter onions, garlic, and carrots, the longest growing crops. Tomorrow Tim and I are going to start our  onions, cabbages, and broccoli. We are also going to try to build a scare crow! 


Today Ethan and I went on errands. We sold a few things, visited my aunt Cathy and uncle Kyle, who gave Ethan apple juice and a super cool motorcycle toy he's held on to all day. Then we went and saw my mom, granny, at my sister Katie's. Mom got the boys some clothes off the awesome dollar rack at Kokes Kids zone, a local consignment store. I also made my second successful Craigslist sale, selling my twin plus my Brest friend nursing pillow. 

With the silks of my corn browning and the ever blossoming cucumber plants are producing tons of fruit, canning is in my very near future. This should be interesting 


A fire argues? 

Saturday, July 5, 2014

365 to an Urban Honestead in a rental!

Today I'm going to embark on a challenge, 365 days of urban homesteading. I already dabble in a little bit of everything self sufficient but today I really felt like I needed to motivate myself. With three under three and a 7 year old, plus Tim and I being newly married, it is easy to become over whelmed.

Striving to become more self relient and living frugally is actually relaxing for me. Something about supplying food for my family with my own hands and spending as little of our minimal one income as I can is a joy. It helps us strive towards paying off our pretty big chunk of student loan debt and save up towards our dream of owning our own small working homestead.

So far in an effort to be more frugal, earth friendly, self sufficient and relient, we have implemented a ton of changes. A few include: 

-breast feeding 
-cloth diapering 
-making our own cleaners 
-meal planning 
-line drying 95% of the time except for rainy days 
-gardening
-canning 
-meal planning 
-buying in bulk
-ordering our meat from a butcher 
-using a budget 
-not buying disposable paper products
-switching to a feminine cup 
-seed saving 
-freezer cooking 
-planning and budgeting our gas use 
-buying and selling things on craigslist and through consignment 
-cutting our hair at home 
-finding free or cheap entertainment 
-limiting tv time to about an hour a day max for myself and the children  (besides dad who plays adult video games kids free after we have all gone to bed)
-never buying full price 
-accepting help from friends and family 
-bartering 
-minimally using our air conditioning unless it's over 80 degrees in the house. (Our twins have cerebral palsy and being confined to equiptment at high temperatures is extremely uncomfortable for them.)
-using freebie sites and sometimes couponing.


The next 365 days I am going to share little bits about our daily live and the ways we save. To educate and to give myself a little encouragement. There's nothing better then being able to actually see the fruits of your labor.

Tuesday, June 10, 2014

A day in the life

I have been terrible about updating out blog as of recently. Our day to day life is nothing short of a wild roller coaster ride, the main goal being keeping all four of my lovely boys alive, second to feeding, bathing, clothing, and entertaining them. :)

Having three under three and a sort of big seven year old helper has been interesting. Gavin and Gabe still have therapy daily, Xavier has biweekly baseball games and normal summer adventures, and Ethan is keeping me on my toes with his intent on being a part of everything mama has going on.

The twins are still getting physical, speech, occupational, developmental therapies and seeing a nutritionist all once weekly. It keeps us very busy along with all our specialty doctors appointments and just keeping our day to day life straight.

Gavin will be 2 years old August 2nd. That is when they stop adjusting age. For all the new readers he has Spastic Quadriplegic Cerebral Palsy secondary to Periventricular Leukomalacia. He also suffers from GERD, vicious cycle constipation, diphagia, aspiration, and sensory issues. He is still being orally fed. We are successfully bi-passed the feeding tube for the past 6 months and hopefully we keep on the up and up and can orally eat the rest of our lives. :) He is now 34 1/2 inches tall and 23lbs 8oz. He is starting to sit independently for short periods of time. He is really enjoying his borrowed Squiggles Stander and Rifton Pacer while we wait for our own. Our therapists and doctors have also ordered him his first wheel chair, a Kid Kart. Hopefully having a tilt in space chair with a tray will allow him to work on his fine motor skills while feeling safe in a supported environment. He has definitely mastered the art of the belly crawl and can now belly crawl over objects, turn around, and back himself out of corners. He is starting to say 2 words together and can now spontaneously say about 20-30 words. :) He is still very hoarse and does still have motor planning issues when it comes to his speech so sometimes it may take 2 or 3 tries before the words come out. Today he was crawling around saying "ga... gabe....gabe...break it."

Gabe is everywhere! We are now a walker. He still has lot of tone issues in his hip abductors, knees, ankles and toes. He has successfully over come his upper body tone/ While still there, he can functionally use both arms for age appropriate tasks smoothly now. He still has a lot of balance and coordination issues. We have lots of bumps and bruises. He is still having feeding difficulties as well. We are still on a level 1 nipple and have to thicken to nectar consistency. He still swallows just about everything whole and doesn't have the best sensory control and often overstuffs when it comes to meals. He is growing like a weed though at just shy of 35 inches and 28 lbs. While hes 5lbs heavier then Gav they really don't physically look different. The CP clinic doctors just explained that Gabes muscle mass weighs more.

Ethan is a little turkey. We are about completely potty trained as we approach his 3rd birthday. We are peeing in the potty during the day and wear a pull up still at night. Most days he wakes up dry, but I think he just wants them for security. He gets very emotional with accidents.

Xavier is keeping us busy with his 7 year old antics. We are dawned the age of sarcasm in our home. Xavier just "looooves to do his chores." :) It is bitter sweet seeing our little boy grow up. It is so exciting the skills, questions, and conversations he initiates now but it is sad that he doesn't think he needs our help anymore. It really makes me sad how much kids his age are exposed to and how fast he is growing up. It really makes me think even harder about homeschooling the three little guys.

As for Tim and I, we are getting married June 21st so we are been in the midst of wedding planning. :) We are having a small wedding with about 80 people. It should be a good time. I have also planted a massive garden this year. I am determined to bring the homestead to our small home, even if we are in a small rental. Our Landlord has been very gracious in letting me plant a 14x30ft garden at the back of our lot and scatter by containers and raised frame beds around the property. This year is my first year gardening and I hope we are able to can enough to supplement part of our grocery bill this summer through spring. Tim is currently trying to find new employment and we now make too much money to get assistance with the boys so we are sort of stuck in between a rock and a hard place. Food stamps used to supplement the Pediasure the boys drink. Now we have to find a way to pay for it and food out of pocket with less money then we had before. It all seems so backwards.

In my garden this year I have planted: sunflowers, wild flowers, garlic, pumpkins, radishes, carrots, cucumbers, jalapenos, cherry tomatoes, potatoes, beans, broccoli, spinach, lettuce, strawberries, corn, onions, 4 tomato varieties, red bell peppers, green bell peppers, sweet basil, purple basil, oregano, sweet mint, lavender, a raspberry vine, and a blueberry bush. This month I plan to add sweet potatoes, water melon, winter squash, pumpkins, more corn and beans for a later harvest, and to replant my lettuce. I am also hoping to plant a second fall garden after we harvest and turn over this one in late August. I plan on planting beets, more broccoli, cabbage, carrots, cauliflower, peas, lettuce, turnips, garlic, kale, and a second set of spinach. My spinach is currently bolted to seed so hopefully I can successfully harvest it in order to replant.

We are also trying to cut costs this year by hopefully buying a deep freezer. That way we can can some of our produce and freeze the rest. If we get a deep freezer we will probably also buy half a cow from a local farmer.

I am also trying to work into our tiny over stretched budget a clothesline. We currently have a clothes drying rack we were gifted (from my mom :) ) that we use daily but we really need a large line for the 6 of our clothing, towels, and linens. It would save tremendously on electric and help our clothes last longer as well. I registered for one or if we get money for the wedding that will be one of the first purchases :) fingers crossed.

I am officially down 40lbs since January. My blood pressure is now low to normal and I have a check up today. :)

I am also thinking about updating and revamping the blog. While it is mostly about the boys I would love to figure out how to categorize my posts with gardening, the boys, saving money, living green ect. So changes may be coming soon!

Wednesday, May 30, 2012

Well here we are.

Well here we are. Just hanging out in the "nesting" room of the Fetal Care Center of Cincinnati Children's Hospital. We had our echo this morning at 8:30a EST. Laying on my back was KILLER. At 21 weeks and some change I didn't think it would be this bad already but I felt like I was going to pass out! I was short of breath hurt. I had to shift probably 5 times and finally succumb to laying on my side. The cardiologist didn't come in to see us this time. The tech just said, "you are free to go and your results will be sent up to your team."

So here we are, waiting again. My stomach is a bundle of nerves, and dunkin donuts (kind of a bust). I've been to the bathroom twice since we've been here. My belly always gets super upset during stressful events. I have to try my hardest not to fart during the ultrasounds when they are pushing all over the babies while my intestines and belly are yelling out loud.

I talked to Tim for a minute. He still hasn't gone to sleep since he shift started last night and is so beyond tired he is wired to go. Ethan talked to me on the phone. He is full of "ga ga ga ga" and "ma ma ma ma" noises today AND has been standing on his own while I've been gone! He had done it a few times before I left, just randomly popping up to stand in the middle of the floor, but I guess he's done it quite a bit the past two days. I feel like I'm missing everything and we've been gone literally like 48 hours.

I am exhausted and going to sit back here in this big comfy chair, close my eyes, and think about the consequences my stomach and behind will face if I eat this extra dunkin donut I got for the road.

Oh the joys of being pregnant.